Andrea Lynn Piazza

What exactly do I miss?

A relationship gives you many things at once. When it ends, it can all feel like missing one person. This helps you pull it apart. It takes about three minutes.

How it works1. For each item, choose how much you miss it.2. Answer four short questions.3. Press the button to see what you're grieving and ideas for each.Educational, not a diagnosis. Nothing is saved or sent.

Part 1: How much do you miss…

The person themselves: their humor, their voice, who they were
The routine: evenings, weekends, the shape of the week
Having someone beside you: dinners, errands, just being together
Physical affection
Shared plans and things to look forward to
Practical help: money, logistics, someone to call
Being part of a couple
The social life that came with the relationship
The future I imagined
Familiarity: knowing what to expect

Part 2: Four quick questions

When I picture the relationship, I picture…
When I remember it, I include the parts that made me leave.
I miss them most when I'm lonely or bored.
If a healthy partner could give me what I miss, I'd still want this person back.