Andrea Lynn Piazza

The conflict reality check

When every argument ends with you wondering what's wrong with you, it helps to sort out what happened from what you're being handed. Six questions, on paper.

How it works1. Think of one recent argument.2. Answer each question in a few words.3. Print it or save it as a PDF if you want to keep it.Nothing you type is saved or sent anywhere.

When conflict always routes back through you, self-improvement can become self-blame. If you don't feel safe at home, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233. In a crisis, call or text 988, or call 911.

Also: privacy vs. secrecy: do I owe my family this?